I Can Relate Game for 12 – 16 year olds


Do your middle-school students know how to relate to others as well as they know how to relate to their phones?

The I Can Relate game teaches 11-16 year-olds critical relationship skills of self-awareness, empathy, and respect.  Social-Emotional Learning (SEL) has been shown to improve academic performance and overall well-being of students.

“Giving middle school students a process to sort their feelings and identify their deepest needs in any situation provides life-long skills to manage anxiety and skills to move forward in a new and healthier way.”

~ Dr. Beverly Lonsbury

Benefits of using the I Can Relate game and process:

For Teachers:

Your students learn:

  • Social and Emotional Learning (SEL) skills that help improve relationships and academic performance.
  • Sorting skills that provide direction for respectful problem-solving.
  • How to consider the perspectives of others building kindness and respect in the classroom.

For Parents:

Your child learns:

  • Social skills for building kind friendships and choosing healthy friends.
  • Self-awareness skills that promote self-esteem and confidence.
  • How to address challenging situations with respect, empathy, and kindness.
  • Social and emotional skills that can improve academic performance.

Who should buy the I Can Relate game and Training resources:

  • Counselors
  • Teachers
  • Special Needs Workers
  • Parents
  • Pastors
  • Youth Leaders
  • Small Group Leaders
  • Psychologists
  • Family Therapists
  • Social Workers

The I Can Relate game includes:

  • 42 age-appropriate Situation Cards for 11-16 year olds (6th-9th grade)
  • 105 Relate Cards (105 Feelings and 105 Needs are printed on the cards)
  • A downloadable Guide for Teachers or Parents

Purchase the I Can Relate game

What people are saying about the I Can Relate game:

“The I Can Relate Game is great!  It has been used in my room with a variety of students. It is especially important that my students learn about and practice a wide range of social situations.  I used many different applications of the I Can Relate Game depending upon the needs of my students.  It opened the door for lots of conversations about social situations, feelings and the concept of needs.  I am working with a few students to monitor their expected and unexpected behaviors – what my students really need from their actions and how others feel in response. Using the game in a variety of ways helped students figure out social situations which was awesome!”


Ellen Mundt

High School Educator

Edina Minnesota