I Can Relate Game for Adults

Are your relationships with the most important people in your life as satisfying as they could be?

The I Can Relate game teaches skills to build healthier relationships, grow emotional connection, and improve personal well-being.

“Responding with empathy towards others lets them know they are heard and they are valued. Responding with empathy towards ourselves allows us to hear our inner voice that tells us we are valued.”

~ Dr. Beverly Lonsbury

Benefits of using the I Can Relate game and process:

Personal Development Benefits:
  • Increased self-awareness and greater appreciation for the positive situations in life.
  • Improved sense of well-being using mindfulness skills.
  • Better able to cope with anxiety by identifying unmet needs.
Friendships/Relationships Benefits:
  • Improved relational skills and relating to the perspectives of others.
  • The ability to connect emotionally with others using empathy guessing skills.
  • Enhanced communication skills using a larger emotional vocabulary.
Benefits for Families/Couples:
  • Greater intimacy in family and couples’ relationships by identifying deeply valued needs.
  • Improved emotional connection and kindness by learning to connect feelings with needs.
  • Increased ability to deal with conflict by allowing time for respectful sharing of feelings and needs with others.

Who should buy the I Can Relate game:

  • Psychologists
  • Marriage Counselors
  • Family Therapists
  • H. R. Directors
  • Life Coaches
  • Counselors
  • Teachers
  • Social Workers
  • Special Needs Workers
  • Pastors
  • Lay Care Ministries
  • Youth Leaders
  • Small Group Leaders

The I Can Relate game includes:

  • 63 Situation Cards for adults
  • 126 Relate Cards (126 Feelings and 126 Needs are printed on the cards)
  • A downloadable Leader’s Guide

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What people are saying about the I Can Relate game:

“Using the I Can Relate Game and process helped me work through situations in my congregation involving relationships. Dr. Bev’s insights about anxiety and self-awareness were particularly helpful for understanding how to respond in a variety of situations. Her process, combined with using the game, offered a tangible and fun way to explore feelings connected with needs in a non-threatening manner. Developing the skill of empathy guessing provides a solid technique that is relatively easy to learn.”


Ann Fenlason

Pastor, Bone Lake Lutheran Church

Luck, Wisconsin

“I invited Dr. Bev to teach her process using the I Can Relate Game with 40 Doctor of Education students at Bethel University. I saw first-hand how much they learned and were engaged in conversations as they played the game. A few months later, I used the I Can Relate game with 9 of my graduate students at Western Theological Seminary. My students LOVED the game. They had a lot of fun with it and felt encouraged to keep practicing the process, Mindfulness and empathy guessing skills.”


Dynna Castillo Portugal, PhD

Professor, Western Theological Seminary

Holland, Michigan